Pep Talk

pep talk

This weekend, I packed up my life for the third time in a year to move on to the next chapter.

This year has seen various chapters for me. So much so that I feel like an oldie! But with it have come lessons and experiences that I will always hold close to me.

Most of my close friends have finished their degree and are planning the next steps in life. I haven’t spoken to a single friend that is confident in those next steps. The world is scary and change isn’t something we are faced with regularly. So here are my words of advice for anyone going through it:

Just because you don’t have a job or a boyfriend or you didn’t get a 2:1 or you’re absolutely bottom of the pit skint. Remember, there is always someone out there who is doing worse than you. It might feel like life is uncertain and for the first time ever you feel like you’ve lost control of your life. But it’s the complete opposite. For the first time in your life you don’t have to adhere to the rules of society. You have the power to take the reins and do whatever you feel like doing.

Ask yourself: If I could do anything right now, what would it be?

Now, do it.

If you can’t do it immediately, work to it. Set a goal and work for it. That goal might be to go travelling, to climb the career ladder, to run a marathon, maybe you just want to be happy. Whatever it is, there is nothing stopping you.

This time is a time for opportunity. Doors close on us everyday but it’s the ones that open that we should pay attention to. Always say yes. Take every opportunity even if it scares the shit out of you.

And most importantly. Believe in yourself. Positivity, smiles, laughter and happiness are the key to success.

Success shouldn’t be defined by the amount of money you earn. It should be defined by how regularly you look back on a day and think “Man, that was a good day.”

You’re one of a kind and have a blank page to write your own story from scratch. And that’s pretty cool.

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#1Holiday Preppin – Bikini Ready

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Floating from shop to shop helplessly gazing at beautiful bikinis and wishing that they flattered you like they do the skinny mannequin. But let’s face it, we’re women! We’re women and we will never be happy stripping off and flaunting all. We need to get bikini ready! It’s not an easy task and it takes time and effort – both physically and emotionally.

Here are my tips for getting bikini ready:

– Crash dieting isn’t going to work. A few months before your holiday, start to get into the habit of healthy eating. This doesn’t mean cutting out the chocolates and biscuits – everything in moderation! It means, avoiding huge portions of food, drinking plenty of water and getting your vitamin intake. You’ll feel revitalised and refreshed in no time!

– Weights are your friend. I’ve said this before on the blog but I can’t stress it enough so I’m saying it again – weights are your friend!! You think you wobble when you walk? Weights will both burn calories and help tighten those loose bits!

– Find a bikini that flatters your shape. There are tonnes of styles out there and loads of them aim to flatter! You might not be able to head to Primark for the perfect look – you have to pay for flattery! High waisted bikinis are a great muffin-top shield. If your boobs are the issue, why not try a maximising top? Also – don’t be completely against the swimsuit, some can be terribly slimming!

– It’s a state of mind. You might be the skinniest person alive, but unless you feel confident in yourself, you won’t feel confident baring all! Spend time to prim and prep; A bikini wax, a mani and pedi, go and get that summer haircut and invest in some waterproof make-up. Focus on your positives and each day, remind yourself that that part of you is smokin’ hot! In time, you might – just might – forget about your flaws. After all, nobody is perfect!

– Finally, if all this sounds like a regurgitation of everything you’ve ever read in a girls mag then… Have a cry, feel fat and ugly, waste your time and energy on tears because you don’t fit into society’s imaginary “ideal”. Or… Put on your bikini and say “Fuck it, I’m a hot piece of ass and if they don’t think it, at least I do!” and in the words of Harry Winston – People will stare, make it worth their while…